“Solitude is dangerous. It’s very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how peaceful and calm it is. It’s like you don’t want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy.” - Jim Carrey
Oh me oh my.
How beautiful it is.
The most extraordinary experience of my life.
There is a strength found in being alone. A superpower really.
It is something you can not be told, you have to experience it for yourself.
It’s quite scary, not going to lie. In the beginning you’ve never felt so alone, but once you begin to truly love and appreciate your own presence, well you can never be alone again. You build this confidence. You feel you can achieve and do anything in the world because you don’t actually need anyone or anything.
I strongly recommend everyone try it. It’s like anything, when you switch diets, your body goes through a detox and it’s tough, but soon enough you start to reap rewards and have never felt better!
Your comfort zone physically grows. I’m not even kidding you feel physical changes. You feel growing pains on a spiritual level, which effects the mind and body. It is the coolest thing!! That’s when you really know you’re growing. It’s courage and confidence. They go hand in hand and feed off of each other.
I am honestly way more social here than I was in Vancouver. There are so many people out there doing the exact same thing! You connect with individuals on a whole new level. I also don’t believe you meet anyone by coincidence. So there’s this mystery to each new person that you have an encounter with.
Benefits
Personally, I am extremely indecisive. It has really been a weakness of mine and bothers me often. A few years ago I had researched ways to get over indecision because it holds me back from so much. Travelling alone forces you to get over that. Otherwise you simple don’t do anything, and not deciding is a decision.
You wait for no one. You don’t have to compromise your day and work around someone else. You just go do it. Selfishness has a negative connotation towards it. Which it can be if it’s too far one way. But we need to be selfish sometimes. Like they say on the planes, put your mask on before you help someone else. If we can’t help ourselves first, then we can’t properly help someone else! Take the time for yourself, and by doing so naturally it will help others.
You make more friends! When you already have a friend it’s easier to just hang out with them. No need to put yourself out there. But when you DON’T, well you don’t have much of a choice but to get over your fears and go mingle :) People are very nice you know! I genuinely love smiling at everyone. I see it as you never know whats going on in that strangers life and you could literally save their life by a simple smile walking by :)
There’s no Drama. Oh my gosh it’s amazing. You feel like you’ve done a complete full body, and I mean on a spiritual level, cleanse.
You build confidence around others/ in yourself. Certain things you wouldn’t normally do.. well what does it matter you might never see these people again!
You can reinvent yourself. Personally I didn’t because I very much like myself. But I have build more confidence.
A big thing to realize is no one actually cares. Have you really judged someone for eating alone at a restaurant? No, if so I respect them more. We all think others are judging us, and they may for a second, but then they get on with their life.
I find when you’re alone you become more creative. You create that space to allow the ideas to flow.
“Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self.” - May Sarton
Sunday night I was walking home from the beach post swim, I walked the usual route. Along that route is a basketball court, there had been 5 guys playing soccer. As I walked by the ball went out of bounds towards me. They then asked if I would join because they were a player short! It was 2 on 3. So I stood there for a minute… and figured why not. So I joined in, then afterwards they said they just came from a BBQ and now they’re going back! “Do I want to come?!” …again, I stood there for a second and thought why the heck not. I only stayed for about 5-10 minutes because I had to be up early for work. Travelling, like anything in life is what you make it. Put yourself out there, say yes to whatever it is! It made my sunday night all that much more interesting.
The biggest thing you learn is about yourself. You really develop as an individual when you’re travelling alone.
Often do I ask myself what am I doing here? Then I remind myself to just be. Go with the flow. I am exactly where I need to be in this present moment. Don’t rush the process, trust the process. Since I have actually begun to let that happen, to allow myself to just be. Man oh man I am on this whole new level. I have never felt so high on life before. It’s not my usual ‘I’m so happy I love life!!’ I literally feel like I’m on magic mushrooms..
To be honest with you, I have done magic mushrooms. I havn’t in a long time, I don’t do any drugs anymore, I simply have no desire to do anything nor do I like how it makes me feel. Although I can relate how I am feeling now to being on shrooms.. This high is the kind where I find myself starting at my arm, flexing and relaxing my hand.. Genuinely so fascinated by human nature. We are a miracle. The world is beautiful. I have never felt so much bliss before. Maybe I have never truly lived in the present moment and now I am? I am not entirely sure what it is, obviously a series of events.
The only other time I felt this similar experience was during my yoga teacher training after I had done 3 yoga classes in a row. You don’t need drugs when you can get it through life. Try it the hard way, go to yoga or take a chance, push your limits and live entirely in the present moment.
ANYWAYS! Just wanted to share my experience so far :) I hope this sparks a little fire in you to have the courage to do a solo trip. Why not right? If you don’t like it just go back home.. it’s that easy!
Message me if you have any questions.
Lots of love as always!!!
xo Sky